Positive Parenting Program Offers Valuable Information
By Kendra Kaiserman
A Family Affair
By Kendra KaisermanEven the best parents need a little help sometimes, and that’s where Triple P comes in. The Positive Parenting Program began more than 30 years ago as a doctoral thesis. Today, it is one of the world’s most trusted parenting interventions. Triple P can be found in 25 countries worldwide, including Chile, Portugal, Ireland and New Zealand.
Triple P has a variety of programs to suit different families’ needs. They offer public seminars, group courses, consultations, private lessons and online services. Specialized Triple P programs have been developed for parents of children with disabilities, parents who are going through a divorce or separation, indigenous families and more.
In Shasta County, Triple P’s website is packed with helpful information for all families, including real-life stories and videos with expert advice for parents. Here are their top 10 parenting tips:
1. Give your child lots of physical affection. Children often like hugs, cuddles and holding hands.
2. When your child wants to show you something, stop what you are doing and pay attention to them. It is important to spend frequent, small amounts of time with your child doing things that you both enjoy.
3. Talk to your child about things they are interested in and share parts of your day with them.
4. Give your child lots of descriptive praise when they do something that you would like to see more often, such as, “Thank you for doing what I asked right away!”
5. Children are more likely to misbehave when they are bored. Provide lots of engaging indoor and outdoor activities for them, like coloring and dress up.
6. Teach your child new skills by first showing the skill yourself, then giving your child opportunities to learn the new skill. For example, speak politely to each other. Prompt them to use manners like “please” or “thank you,” and praise them when they do.
7. Set clear limits on your child’s behavior. Sit down and discuss the rules of the home. Let your child know what the consequences will be if they break the rules.
8. If your child misbehaves, stay calm and give them clear instruction to stop and tell them what you would like them to do instead. Praise them if they stop. If they do not listen, follow through with an appropriate consequence.
9. Have realistic expectations. All children misbehave at times, and it is inevitable that you will have some discipline challenges. Trying to be the perfect parent can set you up for frustration and disappointment.
10. Take care of yourself. It is difficult to be a calm, relaxed parent if you are stressed or anxious. Try to find time every week to let yourself unwind or do something that you enjoy.